How to Get out of the Universe’s Way and Let it Happen!
Sometimes the reason you don’t get what you want is YOU!
That’s why I said already “Get out of the Universe’s way and let it happen!”
How is it possible that we get in the way and block what we are supposed to receive in life?
With stories. As humans, we have tons of stories that are created constantly in our mind. “A new study has suggested that an average person has 6,200 thoughts per day. Thousands of thoughts cross our mind through the day. Many people even complain that they can't sleep immediately after going to bed as their brain does not stop thinking.”
So imagine how crazily we think all the time and that can cause struggles in our lives instead of miracles.
Our thoughts are created by our experiences, memories. You can see the simple pattern below:
I hear you saying “Ok. Burcu but I still don’t get what I’m supposed to do and how I’m getting in the way of not getting what I want.” I see you and I hear you. For this to make sense to you, I had to share this information with you first before getting into the real life examples.
So if you are ready, let’s dive in.
I’ll start with an example. In 2018, I was living in the U.S.A and just graduated from University of California in Digital Marketing and Global Communications. I was looking for a decent job in corporate America but I also want that job to be as flexible as it can to allow me to do my freelance work for my clients.
How I was IN the Universe’s way
I was constantly applying for jobs, asking everyone around me that I needed a job. I was almost begging from people and from the Universe. I was only focused on finding that decent job but nothing else. I needed to move to another apartment because of my lease but because I only focused on my job, I was not making any efforts or decisions to find that apartment for myself.
I was basically telling the Universe that I need to find a job first and then I can look at apartments for myself. This was the order I was expecting but that wasn’t the plan for me and I was in the way!
How I Got OUT of the Universe’s Way and How You Can Do it too
After all those job hunting processes and not living my life I found myself miserable and burnt out after a few months! Yes, months!! I spent months searching for that job but never searched for an apartment nor enjoyed my life. And my moving out date was just around the corner. I was exhausted and I felt like I had nothing left to do but get out of the Universe’s way. I started practicing love and peace by trying to be still and trust the timing.
I stopped searching for a job but I started searching for an apartment and a roommate.
I started acting like the job is on its way and I need to find an apartment over my head. It turned out that I found my roommate before the apartment so we started hunting places together. I was so enjoying looking for places and getting to know my new roommate that I almost forgot that I needed to find a job. In a week of our apartment search, we found a place where I felt like home. I was so happy that I found a sweet roommate and a place that I can call home, even though all those thoughts about still not having a job came back to my mind. Because signing a lease is a huge commitment and not knowing if I was able to pay those rents was super uncomfortable. BUT, I trust the process and I trust God.
After a few days we moved into our new apartment, I received an email from a person I met a couple months ago at an event. It was out of the blue that she was asking me if I was still looking for a job or not. See I was telling everyone I know or meet! I was like “YES!!! I am still looking!” Then, she and I jumped on a call and she explained the position to me. I sent my resume and in a few days I got the job! It was super quick and a super great deal for me in terms of what I was looking for in the job. Remember I wanted to be flexible and do my freelance work on the side. So, the position was working directly with the CEO of the company and work times are based on how I manage that. I could choose to arrive late and leave late or I could arrive early and leave early. And, I could choose to use my lunch break whenever I want during the day. I could choose to use it at 10 am or 3 pm, it is totally up to me. Moreover, the payment was going to be more than what I had expected.
I was blown away by these miracles! The place was perfect, the roommate was lovely and the job was just amazing! Everything I needed and asked for was served by the Universe. When? When I got out of the way and let it happen.
What I have learned is you don’t need to “work hard” to be able to receive what’s meant for you. Or you don’t need to make it happen, it’ll happen if it’s supposed to happen. AND lastly, miracles can be expected. So expect miracles to happen to you!
So how can YOU do it?
4 Steps to Get Out of the Way:
- Act like it’s already yours
- Trust the timing and the process
- Believe that you are worthy to receive whatever you are asking for (love, career, car...etc.)
- Enjoy your time now, not when you receive what you want
I admire Gabrielle Bernstein and her work around spirituality. So I have to acknowledge what she has written about this topic.
Gabrielle says “Pay attention to noninterference. Notice how your day shifts when you commit to love. A Course in Miracles says: You need not do anything. You don’t need to “work” miracles or “make” anything happen. You merely align with your true love nature and allow your eyes to see what you desire.
The Course teaches that miracles are habits and they are involuntary.
We want to get into the habit of simply being in the presence of love and joy. We want to allow, witness, surrender and practice noninterference.”
You can read the whole article here.
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